flaunt that feminism

feminist-trash asked: I love your blog xx

we love you back bby xoxo

teengrrrls asked: Hi! I was wondering if I could interview for me and my best friend zine, Teengirling. It would be a total honor, I adore everything that you do on this blog <3

WE WOULD LOVE TO

Anonymous asked: Re: BDSM Anon, I wanted to recommend two pro-kink feminist blogs, Clarisse Thorn (who's currently revamping her site) and The Pervocracy. There *are* feminist BDSM-ers out there, no worries!

Absolutely! Thanks lovely anon! 

Anonymous asked: I just found your blog and I'm curious what you think, sorry if you've answered things like this before but I'm a girl who really wants to be in a BDSM relationship but every time I hear someone talk about it, it's in a negative view, mostly with the arguments that it "encourages rape" and is anti-feminist. I think feminism should be making your own decisions about your body, and if you like that kind of stuff no one should tell you it's "not feminist." I mean, I'm not saying anyone else has to?

SAFE WORD SAFE WORD SAFE WORD 

If you get consent and your partner gets consent, go right ahead and get freaky! Just make sure the other person is also into the same thing you want to do. 

And yeah, safe words are really really important. 

Have fun! ;)

dupree29 asked: I need feminism because I am comfortable buying condoms but uncomfortable buying tampons and Cosmo.

Agreed! 

People should know that it happens every 4 weeks for most girls 12-50 so if you’re with someone with a uterus there’s a 25% she’s currently bleeding into some cotton. Sorry if that freaked y’all out. 

Anonymous asked: so im an iranian female aka extremely hairy. my stomach/butt/basically entire body has black fuz & i know it isnt actual hair but no one else has it. summer is coming & im not sure what im gonna do. my mom says its cuz my hormones are going nuts & it will be gone when im older. my dad jokes that when im old enough he will let me get laser hair removal from my toes up. but i feel so ugly & insecure & hairy & dumb talking about it cuz no one can relate to me. not sure what im gonna get out of this

OK I HAVE A LOT TO SAY ABOUT THIS 

I personally (thank you Eastern European heritage) have very dark hair on my head, eyelashes, eyebrows and EVERYWHERE ELSE BASICALLY. I often get very very insecure about certain parts of my body, especially in the summer when I want to prance about in my shortest shorts and bikini tops. 

Here’s the first thing: it’s ok to be hairy. THAT IS HOW HUMANS ARE SUPPOSED TO LOOK. If anyone ever ever ever comments on your body in a negative way feel free to say something ridiculous like “well I’ll be warmer in the winter” or something much more mature about how it’s your body and you’d rather they didn’t attempt to make you uncomfortable. 

Here’s the second thing: it’s also okay to shave or wax or do whatever you want to do to feel more comfortable. YOU SHOULDN’T HAVE TO, but sometimes people just want to have less hair on themselves and that’s okay and if you feel far too uncomfortable showing off your body, then don’t let anyone make you feel bad for getting rid of the fuzz. 

It takes a lot of strength to fight insecurities and flaunt your hair. It also takes a lot of strength to decide to NOT flaunt it. In the end, what I want you to know is that you shouldn’t stop yourself from wearing bathing suits or crop tops or anything based on this. Whatever makes you feel best is what you should do. 

Much Love, 

Sophie 

P.S. If anyone pressures you into shaving/not shaving tell me and I will send them a very very very mean letter 

P.P.S. Yo go girl! I hope you have a fabulous summer!

Anonymous asked: (Just to specify I'm not the other anon). But I had a comment to you/ other anon. I know that if you identity as female, you're supposed to automatically be female. Yet as someone who has been raped by a transgendered female, this idea makes me really uncomfortable. I feel sometimes that often (not always by any means) men become women but still act with patriarchy and oppression and it scares me that they are automatically deemed "women." Maybe its coloured by my own experience :S

Firstly, I feel so incredibly awful that you underwent that experience and I can completely understand that your perspective has been altered. 

The intent of the “real woman” graphic (which I believe is the basis of this discussion?) was to reassure. Too many women and young girls have doubts about their own femininity because of statements like “a real woman is ___”.  I don’t believe that anybody gets to tell someone else that they aren’t a “real” woman, regardless of body type or behavior towards men or eating habits or anything else. 

I understand your position as well, and with different gender expressions there are different opportunities to oppress others. What this person did to you is wrong. Period. Some women do commit rape. Regardless of their genitalia, any rapist is in part responsible for a larger rape culture that keeps victims and potential victims oppressed. 

But I don’t think we have to say that female rapists aren’t women. We just need to recognize- and focus on- the fact that THEY ARE RAPISTS, and that the identity as a rapist outweighs their gender identity. 

(I really hope this addressed what you were asking about!) 

Anonymous asked: sorry but merely identifying as a woman doesnt make you a woman

sorry if i’m missing something but what else do you need?